and she will be loved..

My 5 year old told me she doesn't like her skin and she is horrible. How do you tell your daughter, who is stopped on the street for being beautiful, that she is fine... We work so hard to bring stability to our families and teach our daughters that beauty lies with in our self. Then the world says the things we have fought so hard not to hear... This (I'm ugly) crap. We shelter them from bad TV. We feed them organic food and keep them from the harshness of the world.. How do we make them love themselves? The everyone is a winner doesn't work ... the I'm O.k. your o.k. doesn't work. The strongest do survive. How do we teach our children to be caring people, when the survival instinct and alpha cruelty gene is so strong. I am a survivor yet, I nurture. I am the Alpha female but I teach niceness.. if you people hurt my cub I will teach her to destroy you. Play nice and I will be nice if you don 't ..... really I just want to give my daughter a safe place , a place where she is loved . no matter what I will be there for her ... the good,the bad, the ugly. I am there and I will always love her. Life is one hell of a journey, with out someone in your corner. I will always have her back. I can't fight for her but I can say, bring your troubles, Mommy's here. snuggle in I'll listen.

How do you measure a month ?

In daylight, In minutes, in cups of coffee. So I still have my briefcase of unworthy feelings. I try to leave a little behind everyday at a client visit. I'm a salesperson in this new life. I can only sell what I believe in and right now I'm faking it. I once had a shrink say "you need to fake it to make it" What does that really mean? so once you get use to feeling a certain way it becomes comfortable so it's OK? I view the world as not a pretty place but if you look really close you find moments, small milliseconds, that make it worth while. Fragile fragments that make your heart burst in happiness and you hope you can store this feeling, this fleeting flash into your soul forever. something to reference when life really sucks. I have these moments when my daughter figures something out or when she swam for the first time by herself . Excitement!! When someone steps up and accomplishes something they have been shooting for.. I'm so tired of the news. It is even more depressing I think than before. How about a human interest story? What happened to hard work paying off? Are we so cynical we don't buy it anymore?? Kindness, Love and Little things.. Show someone you appreciate them. What happened to a thank you? Give a thank you or a smile a courtesy. If you can give a millisecond of time and compassion maybe someone will give some to you....